This is my last blog, and the goal is to sum up what I’ve learned in my life thus far, and relay that information to other people. The problem is that I feel as if the things that I’ve learned pale in comparison with the large amount of things that I still have yet to learn. Still, having gone through high school the past four years, I think that there are some lessons I’ve learned that can apply more broadly to a general high school experience. Unfortunately, each lesson that I can think of corresponds to a worn-out cliché. I know that if someone had given me this advice before high school, I may not have taken it very seriously, but looking back I believe that these principles were behind many of my good decisions, and could have prevented some bad ones.
Try New Things
I practically embody this phrase in the realm of food. I’m very adventurous and always love to sample something I’ve never even heard of. In other aspects of my life, however, I often forget that, as some people that are not me are fond of saying, “variety is the spice of life”. In high school, I mostly stuck to activities that I’ve been doing since I was very little, like football, trumpet, volleyball, and other activities. It took me until senior year to realize that I was kind of in a rut, as far as my extracurricular activities were concerned. This year I tried to branch out, by joining the varsity bowling team and participating in the Glenbrook musical, both for the first time. Both were great experiences in and of themselves, especially the musical. I found that these were two things that I was pretty good at and that I could see myself pursuing in college, though I doubt I’ll be joining any bowling teams. More importantly, I got to meet a lot of new people, and made some good friends that I definitely would not have made otherwise.
Don't Be Afraid to Quit
I am not a quitter. Period. Honestly, until I quit playing trumpet in band second semester this year, I had never quit anything in my life (as I’m writing this, I recall that I quit going to Hebrew school, but that doesn’t really count in my book. God would probably disagree). The only reason I even quit band is because, through an arcane series of GBN rules, I was not physically able to keep it in my schedule. Previously, I have always viewed my unwillingness to quit as a positive trait, and for the most part it is. Looking back, though, I’m kind of disappointed in myself for sticking with band as long as I did. I really didn’t like it very much. I strongly disliked the teachers, as well as most band members. I made a handful of good friends through band, but it wasn’t the best experience socially. Why was I so reluctant to quit? I barely even thought about it, even as some of my best band friends decided to drop out. Why do I (and society as a whole, for that matter) view quitting as such a horrible thing in all cases? It’s not like I didn’t have other things that I wanted to do. I can say definitively that I would have enjoyed some kind of vocal music or drama activities much more than band. Also, if I was going to sit on the bench all the time in football, why not try something else? This would have been a much harder decision for me, considering that I have a lot more friends on the football team than in band, but it’s an inner dialogue that should at least have taken place.
Follow Your Passions
This one is very, very cheesy. Still, it’s the one thing that will ensure that you make the right decisions. A person’s time is extraordinarily valuable, and we all make decisions daily about how to spend our time. Whether it’s what activity to participate in, which people to hang out with, or even what to think about, I’m very conscious of making sure that I spend the maximum amount of time doing something that will bring me joy. When I discussed my band experience and how I wish I had quit earlier, it’s not because I was miserable when in band. It was fine. However, I’m sure there’s something I could have been doing that I would have enjoyed a lot more. If you continue to search for things (which often involves my first piece of advice, trying new things) that are the absolute best use of your time, it will produce a happy and healthy individual. Obviously we can’t do the things that make us happy 24/7, otherwise I would never show up for AP Physics. There’s a lot of hard work necessary in order to make high school a valuable experience. Still, I would hope that as I get older, I’ll be able to figure out where I can put that work to use doing something that is fulfilling and that I’m passionate about. It may sound naïve, but it’s definitely a good goal to set for myself. To sum it up I think the best piece of advice I could possibly give is a line I once heard: “Above all, be true to yourself, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.”